Just to recap this is my take on Stephanie Meyer’s book Twilight. You should probably read Part 1 before you read Part 2.
Bella is the fragile human female in the story of forbidden love. Whilst her physical body is small and frail in appearance and her physical aptitude leaves a lot to be desired Bella is still a very, very powerful young woman. In Part 1 I discussed the fact that we all want to be powerful and loved by a powerful other. I also said that equally powerful does not have to be mean that both have the same kind of power. Certainly Bella was physically weak, there was no way that she could match the speed and physical strength of her vampire love Edward. However, to dismiss her as weak and fragile on that basis is a huge mistake. The predatory vampire James made this mistake. He didn’t reckon on the ability and power of love to marshal around more love and support. Even the group of young men who were bent on rape underestimated her strength. It is interesting to note that they went after her in a pack – safety in numbers. What these two scenes portrayed was the plight of women who are abused by the greater physical prowess of men. The need for one consciousness to find the weakness of another and then exploit it. This is how humanity generally treats each other, the planet and all other creatures upon it. The greater physical prowess of men due to their genetics has been the excuse for centuries as labelling women as the weaker sex. The subjugation of women has largely been based upon one criteria and of course it is the criteria that women cannot usually dispute. On the foundation of this one attribute women have been labelled as less than and unequal in all areas of society in all cultures. This all reminds me of the analogy of the sea anemone in Part 1.
So we all can safely agree in the area of physicality Bella is weak, then what was her strength? Clearly she did have a strength, otherwise Edward would not have been so afraid of her. Bella possessed and gave the very powerful gift of unconditional love. She loved him even though she knew his nature and on top of that she unreservedly trusted him to not harm her. She trusted that he would not abuse the sacred vulnerability of love. Because she trusted Edward, she entered into relationship with him. Edward had to choose between shutting her out which could have included eating her for lunch or sitting with his own self-imposed inner demons so that he could be around Bella. Bella trusted Edward to do the right thing by her even when he didn’t trust himself. Bella brought him to life, he became more of a person or should I say vampire than he was before he met her. Bella embodied the gentle and yet at the same terrifying power of unconditional love. Bella caused Edward to step outside of his comfort zone, test his limits of self mastery, and self-resolve this was a very scary place for him. In the process he learnt among other things to trust himself. So really whose power was stronger? Does it really matter? You could do all these measurements to prove who was physically stronger or emotionally stronger, but does the outcome of either of these strengths justify calling another weaker. Does it matter what strength you possess does it give you the right to exercise it over another? Unfortunately just as much emotional and mental abuse goes on in our world as does physical abuse. Men are not the only potential abusers, they do however, have an institutionalized upper hand.
And the cost of abusing that which is weaker or vulnerable to your particular strength? You loose the opportunity to be loved and in relationship with another unique consciousness and all the personal nourishment and growth that can bring. Its a funny thing most of us search for true love throughout our lives and yet we are terrified to face it when we find it.
Like Edward, Bella was also aware of how Edward, her mother and her father were vulnerable because of the love they had for her. Bella was very careful not to the violate the sacred space of love, so much so that she would rather die herself than let either of them die in an effort to save her. She was acutely aware of the vulnerability that came with loving and being loved and she wasn’t going to use that space as an opportunity for control and abuse of those that had opened their hearts to her. In this regard Bella was fearless, she may have not been physically strong as vampire Edward, she may have been on the bottom of the preditory heap, but in the end she had more courage than all of them, she was not afraid to loose everything for love.
If you have a need to heal your sacred heart space so that you can open up to love without the need to control, manipulate or abuse, or alternatively you fear being hurt give me a call………………..
Thats what last week was all about internally (personally ) and externally, the rewards in opening that heart space and sitting with the fear and moving through it with trust and some deep breaths is the realness that is felt and once the wobbles settle i recon i can sense some joy and self – solidification and appreciation of consciosness seeping in. feels alright. Time i read the book too. Everyones been raving about it.